Thursday, June 28, 2012

Thursday, June 28

Julia woke up much better than yesterday. I was aware of how cheerful and chatty she was this morning, versus yesterday.  Thank goodness.   We had a pretty quiet day at school; 10 children and 5 adults, so a lot of hands on.  Some of the children are so eager for information; and some are interested only in ‘play.’  Now, for a couple this means a lot of art, and one could argue that that is also information! Or education, anyway.  


Working together in the classroom this morning
Ms. Gao exchanged all my Chinese money for me today; that felt a little weird—it’s really over!  Julia and I scootered on the boardwalk for ‘the last time’—we went the other way today, for the first time!  Julia was somewhat resistant—we didn’t go very far—but I told her I couldn’t live for the next 40 years thinking, ‘why didn’t I ever go right at the beach in Qingdao?’  The tide is going out; the beach looks inviting.  The rocks look a lot like places in Maine.  Out on these rocks we could see not one but three brides having bridal photos taken!  It was pretty windy and must have been wet out there; what a strange thing to do in one’s expensive dress!  The boardwalk was landscaped with some cool looking columns with interesting carvings on them.  There are a lot of open public spaces in Qingdao; they tend to be fairly empty.  I wonder if that is because Qingdao is more domestic than urban, compared with New York, of the same size.  People don’t congregate outside that much, and people aren’t desperate for space in the same way as they are in many big cities. 

Waves!

An interesting baby-carrying basket?

The tide looked way out

Maine-like rocks

A long line of these interesting, carved columns

One of the three brides we saw down on the rocks!

We were invited to dinner with Alex and his family, at a ‘good’ restaurant right here next to our community’s front gate; we have walked by it twice a day for 60 days.  Alex asked to see Julia one more time, after the gifting of the scooter; nice boy!

They had a chance to scooter together - here they check to be sure they're both ready

Down the hill!
So, Alex ‘insisted’ says his mother, on providing Julia with a present of his own choosing.  He picked the sweetest pink princess dress you can imagine!  He wrote a dear note, too.  See you again, in the United States.  I told his mother she should just send him to us for a visit.  Who knows?!

The dress unveiled!

Happy, sweet friends

The restaurant was wonderful; a very different approach to food than in America, but interesting.  Because of the ocean, Qingdao restaurants have a lot of fish; there were tanks of swimming fish in the lobby, dinner options all, including the lobsters and turtles.  Then, behind the tanks, models of the ingredients which go into each dish—so you can order it and also see the model for what’s in it.  Most things also had a glossy photo accompanying the food models.  Many, many options, including soup, meat, veggie food, dumplings, many kinds of fish—it was so funny to listen to Maggie, and Sabrina (who was invited with her husband, as well), talk about what to get with the waitress; they ordered about 12 different items!

The tiered tanks of soon-to-be dinners

Food models

More models

Some of the colorful pictures of different dishes
The first thing was “India Cake” –we got the sweet version.  We were treated to a live demonstration of the making of this paper thin cake, fried in lots of oil! And sprinkled with sugar before frying.  The cook began with a disc of dough, pounded it out on the rotating wheel, and then picked it up, swirled it over his head, slapped it onto the table top again, and back around.  This procedure was continued for about 8 times; each time, the disc got wider and wider.  Then it was sprinkled, folded, fried, and then chunked up into pieces.  Julia proclaimed it better than a fry stick because it was sugared!

The small, original circle of dough

Eager onlookers!

He swung the dough up so high!

Getting bigger

Finally full-sized and ready to be folded, fried, and sugared

India Bread!

After watching this demo, we went upstairs to the private dining room! Which seemed to be the method in this restaurant.  It was so charming, with windows looking out over what is our bus stop every morning, and a big round table with another turntable on it; soon it will be covered with those 12 dishes! 

Some of the many dishes, and Sabrina, Alex, and Julia in the background

More dishes,\

And more!
Neither of the husbands speaks much English at all.  But they were very clear that they wanted to be extending hospitality and friendliness to us.  One way this was done was by plying me with beer!  They explained the Chinese custom here:  if one wants to indicate that one is happy, one quaffs a whole (tiny) beer in concert with the other drinkers, having clinked glasses.  It was very festive.  Sabrina’s husband clearly felt weak on his English and yet he wanted to say something, and, as well, he wanted to be part of the ‘thank you.’  So we cheered a lot!  As he said, he will ‘speak with Qingdao words,’ the beer in this instance!  Also, they explained that the table seating had meaning.  I sat in the chair of the ‘most important guest’ while Alex’s dad sat in the chair of the host, next to my left, and next to him sat Sabrina’s husband in the seat of…’entertainer!’  He did a good job of being joyful and funny, in any language.  Maggie sat in the chair of designated driver!  And Alex was the sub-host; he and Julia cheered with their Sprite about 63 times!

You can somewhat see from the photos that we ate many kinds of foods, and they were all delicious (ok, Julia didn’t like anything she ate, but she has definitely fixed her attitude on the food not to be moved on that!  Smell has impacted her decision!)  We had a really good mushroom soup, and also a marinated mushroom dish that was particularly good.  There was a corn, mushroom and shrimp dish that was so good, very corn flavored, and the ladies drank corn drink –simply pureed corn, hot.  It actually tasted quite good, very full of corn flavor, although, not something I really want to drink!  There was a delicious beef dish with peppers and snow peas, and marinated peanuts, and a greens salad with peanuts, and dumpling sticks, with a delicious filling, and sweet and sour pork (for Julia, which she wouldn’t touch!), another beef dish, mushrooms and also greens in a good brown sauce, and a truly delicious crab/shrimp puff thing with crunchy bread coating that was not good for you but really tasty!

We had a wonderful time, even though some of us were antsy and some of us couldn’t talk to the others of us!  I ‘answered’ questions for a short time; Maggie’s husband teaches political science at the high school level, and has once visited the US (New York particularly).  He had very positive things to say about the citizens of the US, and wanted some insight into why it is that Americans seem to be ‘good and also happy.’  It was an interesting question and perspective.  They asked me about Americans’ view of ordinary Chinese.  So we had an interesting chat about these things (they stressed that they were asking just as among friends, which was also interesting); with the need for translation, it is a little hard to have substantive conversations.  And the social environment didn’t lend itself to real exploration, nor did the noisy children!  But I appreciated the desire to make the connection a bit deeper.   Sabrina’s husband offered his position, a dream, of world unity; we all laughed, as the beer talked, but still, I could note that in fact, overlooking national boundaries is part of an international adoption.  And I shared with them my new insight as to the necessity of including China as a central part of Julia’s world view; a gesture toward unity!

The kids finally got a last opportunity to scooter, in the growing dark, which meant that their sparking wheels could light up.  We took a few last hugging photos, and waved goodbye 23 times as we parted.  The kids have had fun together; not anything heavy or profound, but just real, continual fun.  That is a great gift; I am so grateful for that to have been part of Julia’s time here.

Some silly goodbyes...



And some sweet ones!

Silly scootering outside the restaurant

We will miss Alex!
As we walked home up the hill, it was bustling with groups of people socializing, riding vehicles, talking, walking dogs.  Americans, in their own homes, miss this social scene.  Just today, we saw morning tai chi, we saw afternoon roller bladders, and then we saw night time socializing.  We twice saw people we recognize, and we got a hearty Ni Hao from our veggie vendor.  We bought a donut (reminded Julia of Maine donuts) at 4:30 pm, and noted the ongoing renovation of a new store on the hill—the 3rd such opening that we’ve seen in these 60 days.  It all makes a good case for neighborhood shopping areas, rather than delegating it to larger mall shopping, which has to be reached by vehicle.




One last note:  this morning, as we walked to the bus stop, I spotted this chalk drawing.  Note that it is the ABCs.  How weird is that? In China, for children to chalk the English ABCs? 


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